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Unshakable Self-Belief: Tapping into Your Subconscious Mind

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Unshakable Self-Belief Tapping into Your Subconscious Mind

When it comes to confidence, what matters most is what’s going on in your subconscious mind (what you automatically and “uncontrollably” think in your head).

Your subconscious thoughts influence your self-esteem and self-assurance, which in turn affect how you behave and perform.

In other words, the things you think in your head can change how you feel about yourself. This can also change how you act and do things.

If you want to be more confident, it’s important to understand the power of tapping into your subconscious mind and how to leverage it in your favor.

In this blog post, I will explore some common subconscious thoughts about confidence and discuss how you can use them to boost your self-belief.

What Does Subconscious Mean?

Subconscious refers to the part of your mind that works behind the scenes without you being fully aware of it.

It’s like an invisible helper that stores memories, feelings, and thoughts. Even though you don’t actively think about these things, they can still influence your actions and emotions.

How Do Subconscious Thoughts Affect Our Confidence?

Subconscious thoughts about confidence can vary from person to person. And our subconscious thoughts have a deep impact on our confidence levels.

These thoughts are often rooted in our beliefs, experiences, and emotions, and they can be positive or negative, depending on the person’s circumstances.

Some common subconscious thoughts related to confidence include:

Self-Worth: The Foundation of Confidence.

What is self-worth? Self-worth is a deeply embedded belief system about how you value yourself.

It is a core part of your identity, determining how you view yourself in life, as well as how confident you are in your ability to achieve your goals.

Your sense of self-worth plays a critical role in your confidence levels. Subconscious thoughts about being deserving of success, love, and respect can greatly impact your confidence.

If you have low self-worth, this can lead to feelings of insecurity and doubt.

On the other hand, if your sense of self-worth is high, you may be more likely to take on new challenges and make bold decisions with confidence.

Improving your self-worth starts by examining your thoughts and beliefs about yourself. Pay attention to the language you use and replace any negative self-talk with more positive affirmations.

Taking time for yourself to practice self-care, engage in activities that bring you joy, and surround yourself with supportive friends and family members can also help boost your self-worth.

Ultimately, developing a strong sense of self-worth is very important because it helps you feel good about who you are.

And when you value and accept yourself, you can trust that no matter what challenges come your way, you have the strength within to keep going — and that’s a powerful mindset and feeling.

And with the right mindset, absolutely anything is possible.

Past Experiences: How Do They Shape Our Confidence Levels?

Your subconscious mind stores memories of past successes and failures, which can influence your confidence in seemingly similar situations.

In other words, your past experiences can have a significant effect on your mental health and self-esteem. Whether it’s good or bad, they shape the way you think, act, and feel in different (yet familiar) situations.

Positive memories can make you feel more confident and motivated to tackle new challenges.

One example could be completing a difficult project with flying colors, which gives you the confidence and courage to take on similar tasks in the future.

On the other hand, negative memories may leave you feeling unsure of yourself, leading to self-doubt and low self-esteem. An example of this could be a difficult test where you don’t do as well as you’d hoped, leading to feelings of unworthiness, anxiety, and lack of confidence.

The general key is learning how to use your past experiences — both positive and negative — to benefit you in the present.


Instead of focusing on the failures, try to identify what went wrong so that you can learn from that experience and become more knowledgeable.

This will give you a better understanding of your strengths, weaknesses, and areas that need improvement so that you can be better prepared for similar future challenges.

At the same time, make sure to take note of the successes too (so important).

Reflect on how amazing it felt to accomplish something and use this feeling to drive your confidence forward.

The more you use your past experiences to fill your “confidence tank,” the more confident and self-assured you’ll become in any situation.

To emphasize again, the key here is to learn from both past successes and failures and use them as guidance for making decisions moving forward.

Instead of allowing yourself to be haunted by the fear of failure, focus on the positive outcomes of taking risks — as having an open mind and embracing uncertainty will help you break through barriers that are preventing you from succeeding.

Fear of Failure: The Invisible Barrier.

Your subconscious thoughts and fears of failure or rejection can sabotage your self-confidence, which can cause you to avoid taking risks or pursuing opportunities.

That being said, fear of failure is an invisible barrier to your success and potential.

So you need to be aware of your fearful subconscious thoughts and take action to transform them into positive affirmations.

How To Overcome Fear Of Failure?

1. Identify and Understand Your Fears.

When it comes to overcoming the fear of failure, the first step is to identify and understand your underlying fears.

Ask yourself: What are you afraid of? Is it a fear of not meeting expectations or being judged by others?

Once you have identified your fears, take the time to understand why you have them.

Where do they come from? Are they a result of past experiences or life events?

2. Reframe Negative Thinking.

One of the most powerful ways to overcome fear is to reframe your negative thinking into positive affirmations.

Whenever you find yourself struggling with fear, write down a positive affirmation that will help you stay strong.

For example, if you are afraid of presenting a project in front of a large crowd, your affirmation could be, “I am capable of delivering a successful presentation and inspiring others.”

3. Take Incremental Steps Towards Your Goals and Create Measurable Action Steps.

Once you have identified your fears and reframed your negative thoughts, it’s time to set goals and create measurable action steps that will help you overcome them.

Start by setting realistic goals, break them down into achievable tasks, and then take incremental steps towards completing them.

This way, you can gradually challenge your fears while building confidence and resilience.

For example, if you have a fear of public speaking, start by giving short presentations to small groups of people and then gradually expand your audience.

The Comparison Trap: Evaluating Yourself Against Others.

Subconsciously comparing yourself to others can either bolster or diminish your self-confidence, depending on whether you perceive yourself as more or less successful, attractive, or talented.

This comparison trap can be a difficult one to escape, as your subconscious thoughts often take control of the narrative without you even realizing it.

How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others?

To avoid the comparison trap, it’s important to remember that everyone is unique and that we all have our own individual strengths and weaknesses.

Instead of comparing yourself to other people, focus on being the best version of yourself and strive to reach your own personal goals.

The only person you should be in competition with is yourself — so try to improve each day and focus on your own progress.

It’s okay to look for inspiration from the people around you — that’s completely different than comparing yourself or feeling inferior.

Also, remember that we all have something special to offer (including yourself) and that no two people are the same.

Also, remember to practice self-compassion and stop being so hard on yourself.

Everyone has their own journey, makes mistakes, and absolutely nobody is perfect.

By avoiding the comparison trap, you can be more mindful of who you are and appreciate your unique strengths and abilities.

It’ll also help make sure that your self-confidence stays intact, regardless of what other people are doing, saying, or achieving.

Internalized Messages: The Voices That Influence Our Self-Belief.

As human beings, we may subconsciously internalize positive or negative messages from parents, teachers, or peers, which can shape our confidence levels over time.

It’s important to recognize and address these internalized messages so that they don’t affect your self-belief and confidence in a negative way.

How To Detect Internalized Messages?

First, remember that everything seems more dramatic in your mind.

So before you blame yourself and start to doubt your abilities, take a step back and put it all into perspective.

Start by taking an inventory of the thoughts and beliefs that you have about yourself.

Once you can identify your internalized messages, challenge them with evidence or a more realistic perspective.

Ask yourself: What is the source of this message? Is it coming from somebody else, or is it just a negative thought that I have projected onto myself?

For example, if you’re telling yourself that “no one likes me,” challenge this false narrative by remembering the many people in your life who do like and care about you.

And ask yourself where the source of this message is coming from — is it a negative thought you have about yourself, or is it an internalized message from someone else?

You can also talk to trusted and supportive friends or family members for help in counteracting your internalized messages.

By recognizing and addressing internalized messages, you can be more aware of the thoughts that shape your self-belief and confidence levels.

This helps to create a healthier and more positive outlook on life so you can walk in your full potential and experience happiness and achieve the wins that you deserve.

How To Address and Handle Internalized Messages?

When it comes to addressing internalized messages, you can start by catching yourself when a negative thought enters your mind.

Simply recognizing and acknowledging these thoughts can be a great first step in tackling them.

Then, make an effort to reframe the message or thought in a more positive way — or even replace it with a positive affirmation.

For example, if you’re thinking, “I’m not good enough,” replace it with a more positive message like: “I have the potential to become great at this.

You can also practice visualization techniques and talk to yourself in a positive and encouraging manner.

For example, imagine yourself succeeding in something (be as specific as possible) and visualize how it will look, feel, and sound.

And speak to yourself in a compassionate, empowering way like you would with a best friend.

It’s also helpful to keep a journal where you can write down the stories, thoughts, and beliefs you have about yourself (I like to use my digital planner/journal on my iPad).

Then, challenge these negative messages with realistic evidence or positive affirmations.

Re-writing your story — literally — can be incredibly powerful in helping you to grow and develop a more positive outlook on life.

The better we understand our own stories and take active steps toward rewriting the negatives, the greater our ability will be to confidently face our fears.

With a bit of self-reflection, awareness, and effort, you can start to address and handle internalized messages that affect your confidence.

You have the power to feel confident and strong — and it’s time to take back control and reclaim your narrative! I’m rooting for you!

Now that we’ve talked about internalized messages let’s dive deeper into self-talk.

Self-Talk: The Power of Our Internal Dialogue.

Your internal dialogue can have a profound impact on your self-confidence.

Subconsciously, we all engage in negative self-talk, like doubting our abilities or downplaying our achievements, which can mess up our confidence.

What is Self-Talk?

Self-talk is the conversations you have with yourself, both out loud and in your head.

It can be positive or negative, and it shapes how you perceive the world around you.

Negative self-talk can manifest as putting yourself down (“I’m not smart”) or worrying about potential failure (“I’ll never get this right”).

Positive self-talk can make you feel motivated and capable (“I’m going to do my best”) or remind you of your strengths (“I’m good at problem-solving”).

Comfort Zones: The Hidden Enemy of Confidence.

Naturally and subconsciously, people have the urge to remain in their comfort zones to avoid potential failure or embarrassment, which can limit their confidence in new situations.

It’s easy to become comfortable with the familiar, but stepping outside of your comfort zone can help build your confidence.

To do this, you need to become aware of your comfort zones and strive to expand them. And identifying what makes you anxious and why is a great way to start.

How To Get Out Your Comfort Zone?

It’s important to take baby steps when leaving the security of your comfort zone. You can start by tackling smaller tasks or activities that make you feel uncomfortable in order to avoid feeling overwhelmed.

Continue to set achievable, yet challenging goals and reward yourself for progress.

Gradually increase the difficulty of your tasks as you gain more confidence and become comfortable with being out of your comfort zone.

Ultimately, remember that failure is a normal part of life and learning; it’s how you grow and learn from your mistakes.

And don’t be afraid to give new things a try because it’s the only way you’ll ever know what you’re capable of.

Perfectionism: The Unattainable Standard.

The subconscious belief that we need to be perfect in order to be valued or accepted can hinder our confidence — making us scared of making mistakes or being judged by others.

Because of this, it’s essential to recognize and challenge the idea that perfection is a standard we need to reach.

Instead of striving for unattainable perfection, focus on growth and progress.

Remember, mistakes are part of life — they can be used as opportunities for learning and personal development.

If you find yourself struggling with perfectionism, it can be helpful to analyze your thoughts and ask yourself if they are rational or irrational.

In addition, recognize the power of acceptance and self-love — try to be kind to yourself through difficult times.

It’s also important to focus on the process rather than obsessing over the outcome.

Celebrate your successes, no matter how small they may seem.

By shifting your mindset away from perfectionism, you can boost your confidence while making space for self-growth and development.

Take the time to acknowledge your hard work and offer yourself some compassion — it’ll make a world of difference.

Another important tip is to surround yourself with positive people who are non-judgmental. Supportive relationships can help you move away from a perfectionist mindset and encourage a healthier, more confident outlook.

Imposter Syndrome: The Confidence Thief.

Another subconscious thought is feeling like we don’t belong or are undeserving of our accomplishments, which can negatively affect our confidence.

This is known as imposter syndrome.

Imposter syndrome can be defined as a feeling of inadequacy that comes from believing your success or achievements are the result of luck, chance, or outside influences rather than your own skill or hard work.

It can lead to feelings of anxiety, low self-esteem, and fear of failure. It can also cause you to be overly critical of yourself or avoid taking risks in order to protect your sense of worthiness.

The good news is that imposter syndrome is a perfectly normal feeling (everyone goes through it), and there are strategies you can use to combat it and restore your confidence.

Here are a few:


Awareness is the first step. Recognize that you are feeling inadequate and understand why it’s happening.

Realize that these feelings don’t reflect your true abilities, and acknowledge your successes instead of downplaying them.


As mentioned earlier — reframe your negative thoughts with positive self-talk. Remind yourself of the skills you have and the successes you’ve achieved and can achieve.

Talk to yourself in a kind, caring way, just like you would to a friend or family member who is feeling down.

Support System.

Having a supportive team or group of people to cheer you on can help strengthen your confidence.

Surrounding yourself with individuals who believe in you and your capabilities is an invaluable tool for combatting imposter syndrome.

So take these steps and reclaim the confidence that imposter syndrome has taken from you! You have what it takes — don’t let negative thoughts stand in the way of your success.

Body Language: The Silent Communicator.

Body language can be a person’s most influential confidence dictator.

Your subconscious thoughts about your body language and how you carry yourself are powerful tools in determining how confident you feel and how confident people perceive you.

Body language is a silent communicator that can make or break your self-perception. It speaks volumes to others before you even utter a word, and it has the power to amplify your presence of confidence or make it disappear altogether.

Confidence can be built up as much by how you carry yourself as by what you say.

After all, body language is usually the first thing someone notices about you, and it can significantly influence their opinion of your character.

We often assume our body language reflects how we feel on the inside, but sometimes it can be quite the opposite — with subtle changes to the way we stand and interact, we can trick ourselves into feeling more confident in social situations.

To make these tasks easier, there are a number of simple tips that can help you better your body language and boost your self-perception:

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Tips for Improving Your Body Language and Self-Perception.

1. Stand tall with your shoulders, back, and chin up. This posture enhances a sense of power and confidence, which will show in your interactions with other people.

2. Avoid crossing your arms or legs, as this can exude feelings of nervousness or insecurity.

3. Make eye contact. Meeting someone’s gaze when speaking to them can show that you are confident in yourself and what you have.

4. Determine the right amount of space you should maintain when talking to someone. Take into account personal boundaries and cultural norms when deciding how far away to stand from the other person.

5. Smile, smile, smile (most important tip)! Smiling is a great way to show that you are comfortable in your own skin and gives off positive vibes.

By changing your body language, you can tap into hidden reservoirs of confidence within yourself and make a positive impression on the people around you.

Your self-perception can be greatly affected by how you carry yourself, so it’s important to take the time to learn how to reprogram your subconscious mind so that it works in your favor.

With a few simple adjustments here and there, you can make all the difference in the way you present yourself, developing new habits that will help you feel more confident in any situation.

Conclusion: Reclaim Your Confidence by Addressing Subconscious Thoughts.

It is important to recognize that your subconscious thoughts can have a powerful effect on how you feel and how you live your life.

By being aware of the power of your subconscious mind and taking steps to identify and address any negative, limiting beliefs you may be holding onto, you can reclaim confidence in yourself and your capabilities.

Tapping into your subconscious mind requires being honest with yourself, exploring, and being open to the thoughts and experiences that may have been buried deep down.

Doing this work can be messy, uncomfortable, and challenging. But it is so worth the effort.

As you identify and address any negative or limiting beliefs, recognize there is an opportunity for growth in their place. This is where big changes can come.

In this way, you can make a shift in how you think and feel about yourself, which will lead to greater confidence and success in all areas of your life.

So go out there, be brave, take the time to explore your subconscious thoughts, and experience the power of reclaiming confidence in yourself. You won’t regret it.

You more than got this!

A synonym for subconscious is “unconscious.”

Accessing your subconscious mind involves conscious effort and self-awareness. Meditation and journaling are two practices that can help you to delve deeper into your thoughts and get in touch with the beliefs held in your subconscious.

It can also be helpful to talk to a therapist or counselor about any issues that may be affecting your self-confidence.

Gaining access by tapping into your subconscious mind can help you to become more self-aware and confident in yourself. By recognizing any negative beliefs and changing them, you can create a healthier mindset and achieve your goals more easily.

Additionally, the subconscious mind holds valuable insight into your behavior, emotions, and desires that can help you make more informed life decisions.

Reaching your subconscious mind while awake can be achieved through various techniques that help quiet the conscious mind and access the deeper layers of thoughts and emotions.

Here are some methods you can try:

Dream analysis: Analyzing your dreams can provide insights into your subconscious mind, as dreams often contain symbols and messages from our deeper selves. Keep a dream journal and review it regularly to find patterns and themes.

Meditation: Regular meditation practice can help you connect with your subconscious mind. Focus on your breath, observe your thoughts without judgment, and gradually enter a state of deeper awareness.

Visualization: Imagine yourself in a peaceful, calming environment, and allow your mind to think creatively. Visualization can help access your subconscious mind by tapping into your imagination and emotions.

Affirmations: Positive affirmations can help reprogram your subconscious mind by repeating specific phrases or statements. Repeat you’re positive affirmations multiple times throughout the day to help embed and reinforce new beliefs and thought patterns into your core.

Journaling: Writing in a journal can help you process your thoughts and emotions, bringing your subconscious thoughts to the surface. Try free-writing or using prompts to explore your inner thoughts.

Mindfulness: Practice mindfulness by focusing on the present moment and observing your thoughts, feelings, and sensations without judgment. This can help you become more aware of your subconscious thoughts as they arise.

Creative activities: Engaging in creative activities like painting, writing, or playing music can help you access your subconscious mind, as these activities often involve a state of flow and self-expression.

All in all, remember, patience and practice are key when working with your subconscious mind. It may take time to notice significant changes or insights, but with consistent effort, you can learn to access your subconscious while awake.

To remove negative thoughts from your subconscious mind, engage in positive affirmations, develop a healthy lifestyle, cultivate gratitude, seek professional help if needed, and surround yourself with positive influences (people, environments, tv programs, etc.).

Sleep talking, also known as somniloquy, is a sleep disorder that involves talking during sleep without being aware of it.

It can occur during any stage of the sleep cycle and can range from simple mumblings to complex conversations.

Sleep talking is not fully understood, but it is believed to be related to the brain’s processing of information during sleep.

While sleep-talking can sometimes seem like a window into a person’s subconscious thoughts, it is essential to note that the content of sleep-talking does not necessarily reflect the sleeper’s true feelings, thoughts, or emotions.

Sleep talking can be influenced by several factors, including:

Sleep stage: Sleep talking can occur during any stage of sleep, but it is more likely to be coherent and meaningful during lighter stages (NREM stages 1 and 2) as opposed to deep sleep (NREM stage 3) or REM sleep.

External stimuli: Sounds or other environmental factors can trigger sleep talking. For example, a loud noise might prompt the sleeper to vocalize a reaction.

Sleep disorders: Sleep talking can be associated with other sleep disorders, like sleepwalking, night terrors, or REM sleep behavior disorder.

In these cases, the sleep talking may be a symptom of the underlying disorder rather than a direct reflection of subconscious thoughts.

Stress and anxiety: High levels of stress and anxiety can increase the likelihood of sleep talking, and the content of the speech may be related to the sources of stress.

Medications and substances: Certain medications, alcohol, or recreational drugs can lead to increased sleep talking, which may or may not be meaningful.

In conclusion, while sleep talking can sometimes provide insight into a person’s subconscious thoughts, it is important to recognize that the content may be influenced by various factors and should not be taken as a direct reflection of the sleeper’s true thoughts or feelings.

Dreams are complex and not fully understood, but they are thought to be connected to the subconscious mind.

The subconscious mind processes a vast amount of information, much of which we are not aware of during our waking hours.

It’s believed that dreams can be a way for our subconscious to process and organize this information, as well as explore emotions, memories, and desires.

In some theories, dreams serve as a way for the mind to practice problem-solving, emotional regulation, and consolidation of information.

They may also provide insights into our inner thoughts and feelings that we might not be consciously aware of.

However, the exact nature and purpose of dreams are still topics of ongoing research and debate among psychologists, neuroscientists, and other experts.

It’s important to note that while dreams may be related to our subconscious thoughts, they should not be taken as direct representations of reality or as definitive messages from the subconscious.

To make your subconscious mind believe something, follow these steps:

Repetition: Consistently repeat the desired belief in the form of affirmations or visualizations. The more you expose your subconscious to the idea, the more likely it will internalize it.

Emotional connection: Attach strong emotions to the belief, as the subconscious mind responds better to emotional stimuli. Visualization and emotional storytelling can help reinforce the belief.

Positive environment: Surround yourself with people, experiences, and resources that support your desired belief. This will create a positive feedback loop, reinforcing the belief in your subconscious mind.

Act as if: Behave as if the belief is already true. This practice will help align your conscious and subconscious mind, strengthening the belief over time.

The terms “subconscious” and “unconscious” are often used interchangeably, but they have different meanings in the field of psychology.


The subconscious refers to the mental processes that occur below the level of conscious awareness.

These processes can influence our thoughts, feelings, and actions without us being fully aware of them.

The subconscious mind is responsible for automatic processes like memories, habits, and instincts. It can also play a role in creativity, intuition, and problem-solving.


The unconscious, a term primarily used in psychoanalytic theory, refers to the part of the mind that stores thoughts, feelings, and desires that are not currently in conscious awareness, usually due to their potentially distressing (painful or uncomfortable) nature.

According to psychoanalytic theory, as developed by Sigmund Freud, these repressed thoughts and emotions can still influence our behavior, and bringing them into conscious awareness can help resolve psychological conflicts and improve mental health.

In summary, the subconscious is generally associated with automatic processes that occur below conscious awareness, while the unconscious refers to the repressed thoughts and emotions that are not accessible to conscious awareness but can still influence our behavior.

And in even simpler terms, the subconscious is like a computer that works without you thinking about it. The unconscious is like when you try not to think about something, but it still affects your behavior.

Improving one’s confidence requires creating a positive feedback loop of self-affirming beliefs and behaviors.

Here are some tips to help others boost their confidence:

1. Help them identify their strengths and build on them. Encourage them to focus on the things that they can do well rather than fixate on their weaknesses.

2. Offer positive reinforcement for their efforts. Acknowledge small victories and celebrate accomplishments, no matter how small they are.

3. Encourage them to take risks and try new things in a safe environment — including challenging themselves to step out of their comfort zones.

4. Empower them to set attainable goals and create a plan for achieving them. This can give them the sense of control they need to take on any challenge.

5. Remind them that mistakes are part of learning and growth — and help them find ways to use those experiences as valuable lessons going forward.

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